I don’t know what I mean by good, to be able to go out and meet girls and create attraction and close a deal. I say you can get good in couple of months.
There are a lot of paid and free resources these days on how to pickup women. Look at this guy who followed Brad P the dating coach and had immense success. Personally I’ve been reading some of it, but it feels too much like study material.
I can vibe well if I can connect with a person, but it’s not often that you connect naturally. I need to master approaching, banter, storytelling, push-pull, getting physical and so on.
Don’t get me wrong I am getting girls here and there. But I want to become more proficient at it.
So this month is my real start infield when I will hopefully approach in regular basis and master one skill at the time.
I guess a couple of months were necessary for me to really believe that I can become very successful with women on core level and to create some kind of a game plan.
I’m finding the further I progress the more things that I have to work on. This becomes more than just picking up girls. It becomes more about you becoming integrated within and throughout your whole being.
Being “good” with women and in general is a pretty relative term. I think I get better daily. I work on my confidence, my MMA skills, my business and many other skills. All education is self education. There was never a point where I noticed I was getting “good” at being a ladies man, it’s just been a natural progression like anything else I work on.
Much depends on how often and how keenly you practice.
Excessive thinking is not a good thing. This is a result of reading too much about the topic. Getting women requires balls, great personality, and field experience. Don’t make this difficult for yourself. Nobody is giving you school work – you’re piling yourself with all this load of reading material about it.
Even if you wish to improve in these areas first start off with the very basics. For example if your approaches do not work, review them and work further on improvement. Carry only the weapons you need – you certainly don’t need all.
Break your weaknesses down and simply stick to basics. Make multiple approaches a day, make it a habit. Field work has given me all the courage I need. I haven’t seen any ‘instructional’ videos that changed me. It’s the experience that did. Simply go with the flow.
I focus only one thing at a time. I started off by working on confident eye contact like I said (body language). Then I focused on approaching and getting digits. Of course I failed a number a times. The important thing is I practiced. Accordingly everything else fell in place with time. Keep it simple.
Get out of your comfort zone. I still go out and get wasted with friends and do stuff which is not helping my progress but is actually killing it. However, having fun is essential for being happy. Pickup is not key to happiness, happiness is key to pickup.
I have to stop repeating the same mistakes and excuses. And no external guidance can help me with this, it just an internal decision.
Do you remember the first time you tried to ride a bike? You were probably scared and didn’t know what to do… maybe you fell off the bike one or more times. But in the end you learned it and it is now normal.
Same thing jumping head on into the water, and same thing when meeting girls.